It’s amazing to me how many of us are not satisfied with how we look. Even the most beautiful woman looking at a great portrait of herself will fixate on the things she does not like. Why can’t we just embrace our uniqueness and shine from within? Has our culture brainwashed us that much into thinking we must look a certain way in order to be accepted?
Americans, in general, are always striving to be better. When we achieve a goal it’s not enough and then we strive towards a new goal. This mindset filters into how we want to look. We feel we have to go on a diet, get more exercise, have thicker hair, and on and on. It’s an endless cycle that repeats over and over. It is complete nonsense because no one can live up that much perfection.
Being sexy is all about how you feel, not how you look.
Accepting yourself for who you are right now is essential in looking and feeling better. This, of course, is the hardest step to accomplish. Get yourself into a neutral mental state before you begin. Look in a mirror and write down what you consider your flaws are that make you uncomfortable. When you are triggered by an emotional response “step out of your way” and think logically and rationally from a point of view of non-judgement. If you are not able to do this without getting emotionally charged take a break and come back to this task at another time. If you see yourself as too fat/too skinny simply accept this as your current condition. Don’t fixate on how to change it or what brought you to this point. If you see a part of your body that is really unchangeable like your nose that you dislike, then think about the situations that brought you to think that way. If they were people that hurt you with critical comments then realize that their words were due to their own insecurities about themselves at that time.
Accepting what you consider flaws can take a lot of work. However, once you’ve begun to cover the major issues you have with yourself start be rewiring your programs. Write down all the special things about you. Begin by looking in a mirror and start with the simplest things you like first; “I have straight teeth and a nice smile”. Keep going and write down all your positive qualities and characteristics. Don’t be afraid to ask your friends what they like about you as well. Sometimes they give you input about things you never thought about.
Many people focus on things that happened in the past or how they want things to be in the future. Seeing yourself in the present moment gives you a proper perspective on who you are. Become aware of all your negative chatter and rephrase them to be positive. Always notice how you feel in the moment and ask yourself “what is it I need”.
People, in general, are attracted to those who smile. Smiling instantly increases your physical appearance. We all experience up and down cycles in our lives so in order to stay smiling we need to put ourselves in a higher state more often. If you’re feeling down don’t exaggerate your darkness by focusing on the negative. Be kind to yourself and watch something funny, spend time with friends that make you laugh, or simply do something that you enjoy in that moment. If you’re in a situation when you’re feeling down that you don’t want to be, sometimes just faking a smile transforms into a real smile.
This is actually a lot easier than you think. Realize you are an amazing person and start caring for yourself now by being compassionate with yourself. Treat yourself like you would treat your best friend. Once you are more accepting of who you are you are more likely to think about eating right, exercising and getting more sleep naturally because it makes you feel good. The important thing to remember is there is no need to make “have to” list.
Think back at a time when you felt confident. Have you ever been dating someone that makes you feel sexier and suddenly you have men/women calling you to ask you out?When we feel sexy we are sexy. When we feel confident in our skin and truly love ourselves for who we are… we are sexy.
If you still struggle with this I definitely understand. I still do, I’m always a work in progress. Many things have helped me along the way to personal growth. I highly recommend a regular meditation practice. It will clear the mind clutter and mind fog and help you be in the present moment. For releasing negative emotions you’ve held onto about yourself your whole life I would suggest EFT tapping. It has been invaluable for my own healing.
Allow me to photograph you so you can see how truly beautiful you are. If putting on a beautiful suit gives you confidence and makes you feel sexier image how you’ll feel looking at the entire package. Your portfolio is spectacular. If the Law of Attraction truly works then you are dressing for success. Or rather, you are projecting the image of which you will believe and become.
If you are ready to see how amazing you are, give me a call today.