It’s amazing to me how many of us are not satisfied with how we look. Even the most beautiful woman looking at a great portrait of herself will fixate on the things she does not like. Many of us strive to discover the steps to feel sexier. Why can’t we just embrace our uniqueness and shine from within? Has our culture brainwashed us that much into thinking we must look a certain way to be accepted?
Americans, in general, are always striving to be better. When we achieve a goal it’s not enough and then we strive towards a new goal. This mindset filters into how we want to look. We feel we have to go on a diet, get more exercise, have thicker hair, and on and on. It’s an endless cycle that repeats over and over. It is complete nonsense because no one can live up that much perfection.
Being sexy is all about how you feel, not how you look.
Below are five steps that will make you look and feel sexier.
Accept Yourself Right Now.
Accepting yourself for who you are right now is essential in looking and feeling better. This, of course, is the hardest step to accomplish. Get yourself into a neutral mental state before you begin. Write down what you consider your flaws to be and what makes you uncomfortable about yourself. When you are triggered by an emotional response “step out of your way” and think logically and rationally from a point of view of non-judgment.
If you are not able to do this without getting emotionally charged take a break and come back to this task at another time. If you see yourself as overweight or too thin, simply accept this as your current condition. Don’t fixate on how to change it or what brought you to this point. If you see a part of your body that is unchangeable, like your nose, then think about what caused you to think that way. If they were people that hurt you with critical comments then realize that their words were due to their insecurities about themselves at that time. One of the most important agreements (The Four Agreements) we can make with ourselves is to not take what other people say about us seriously.
Identify Your Special Qualities.
Accepting what you consider flaws can take a lot of work. However, once you’ve begun to cover the major issues you have with yourself start be rewiring your programs. Write down all the special things about you. Begin by looking in a mirror and start with the simplest things you like first; “I have straight teeth and a nice smile”. Keep going and write down all your positive qualities and characteristics. Don’t be afraid to ask your friends what they like about you as well. Sometimes they give you input about things you never thought about.
Stay In The Present Moment.
Many people focus on things that happened in the past or how they want things to be in the future. Seeing yourself in the present moment gives you a proper perspective on who you are. Become aware of all your negative chatter and rephrase them to be positive. Always notice how you feel in the moment and ask yourself “what is it I need”.
People, in general, are attracted to those who smile. Smiling instantly increases your physical appearance. We all experience up and down cycles in our lives so to stay smiling we need to put ourselves in a higher state more often. If you’re feeling down don’t exaggerate your darkness by focusing on the negative. Be kind to yourself and watch something funny, spend time with friends that make you laugh, or simply do something that you enjoy at that moment. If you’re in a situation when you’re feeling down, sometimes just faking a smile transforms into a real smile. This will also make you feel sexier and sassier.
Take Care Of Yourself.
Realize what an amazing person you are and be more compassionate with yourself. Everyone wants better health in some area of their life. Daily we are under so much pressure. It is time to give ourselves a break. We beat ourselves up when we don’t accomplish certain tasks or when things don’t go our way. I believe the #1 culprit sabotaging our health goals is stress. Stress not only creates chaos in our minds but eventually brings disease to our bodies.
Commit to yourself, with 100% conviction, that you will take care of yourself the best you can. To live more vibrant and efficient. This includes working on your mindset and emotional guidance system and removing the stress out of your life. And finally, don’t forget to get enough sleep and drink plenty of water.
Finding your joy starts from within. And once you are feeling good and are more accepting of yourself, then eating right and exercise comes naturally.
Let me help you and show you how beautiful you are.
Think back at a time when you felt confident. Have you ever been dating someone that makes you feel sexier and suddenly you have men/women calling you to ask you out? When we feel sexy we are sexy. When we feel confident in our skin and truly love ourselves for who we are… we are sexy.
If you still struggle with this I understand. I am still and always will be a work in progress. Many things have helped me along the way to my personal growth. I highly recommend a regular meditation practice. It will clear the clutter and mind fog and help you be in the present moment. To help you with stress learn how to breathe. Breathing correctly is not only better for your overall health but will also help ground you and center your focus. An excellent resource for this is Groom And Style’s Guide for Breathing. For releasing negative emotions you’ve held onto about yourself your whole life I would suggest EFT tapping. It has been invaluable for my healing.
If you are a business owner and struggling with getting yourself in front of your audience then you must change your attitude. Own who you are and be okay being different than others. This is what will make you stand out to your competition anyway. People want to hire confident people. Confidence comes through in how you present yourself in every manner of your brand. What you wear, your mannerism, how you talk and of course all your other marketing material online. Show them your gorgeous smile and look warm, happy, approachable, confident, reliable, and worth hiring. Feel Sexier!
The Law of Attraction works when you are dressing for success. In other words, if you project the person you want to be you are already living the person you want to be.